Tuesday, December 18, 2012

Going With the Holiday Flow

Hi all!

Christmas Day is eight days away and I'm finding it difficult to focus on my novel this week.  Who am I kidding?  I found it difficult to edit last week, as well.  A couple of days of good work a week and other days of...distractions.  That equals two and a half weeks of distractions.  Is this happening to you?  Maybe I should have taken December off, thereby reducing the guilts!

Okay, I did have a week vacation with my friends and family in Puerto Rico which I enjoyed immensely.  I rested the week following my vacation and got my house in order.  I even found time to paint my front door glossy black (after pinning dozens of black doors on Pinterest this fall) and I decorated the outside of my house for the Holidays.  I visited with a sick friend, had coffee with two neighbors and caught up with girlfriends and family by email and telephone.  Yesterday, I gave my neighbor and her family a little tree because I know they are hurting this year and last night, I had dinner with a new friend - our second date.  Distractions?  Yes!

My writing rhythm is shot.  I was doing so well at the beginning of the month and had made great headway with my novel and then, the Holiday pressures were on.  I suppose I put those pressures on myself, but they're valid distractions this time of year.  I have ecards to put together, gifts to buy, a train ticket to Virginia to purchase, and friends I'd love to get together with.  Not to mention, my bedroom looks like a hurricane passed through.

I have kept up with my blog, however.  Bite-size pieces of writing.  I suppose the fact that I'm writing is a good thing.  My mind is jumping around and my heart is already in Northern Virginia with my kids and family.  I can't wait to seem them all!

How do people write, publish and market books while working full-time, part-time and raise kids, I wonder?  Am I that disorganized?  I don't work outside the home, I should be able to do all this with my eyes closed, right?  Priorities, I know.  I know the drill, but there's something major to be said about being present.  I don't know how many Holidays I'll have with both my kids and family; none of us do.

So, I've decided to enjoy my family and friends this Holiday season and when I return, I'm turning off the phone, not answering emails and I won't put the TV on!  That's it.  I'm not wasting time mind you, I'm simply going with the Holiday flow and choose not to feel guilty about it.

Guilt, worry, and anxiety are wasted emotions.  I choose to put all my energy into enjoying my family and friends this Holiday season.  For me, that is what is important - being present and enjoying the gifts that my family and friends are.  True blessings.

Peace, blessings, and love to you.


  1. #1 - Love the door, Ellie! Now I want to paint mine a different color, too. I'm thinking dark purple. Hmmm, wonder what the landlord would think??

    #2 - No matter how hard we try, we can't be Wonder Woman ALL the time - just MOST of the time. Good for you for not feeling guilty. You've been going like a house afire for a few months now, haven't ya??

    #3 - That pesky editing will still be there when the Spirit finally moves you!

  2. Thanks, L! Dark purple sounds beautiful to me! Go for it! Yep, I think the two trips and editing took more outta me than I originally thought and then, came the Holidays :) No guilt!

    I'll be ready to saddle up after Christmas with my kids! I wish you a beautiful Holiday season! Always great to hear from you, L :) xx

  3. I love the holidays, I do....but man oh man, when January 2nd rolls around....do I EVER let out a sigh of relief!!! LOL

  4. I'm with you, Dani! I LOVE the holidays, but I'll be glad to spend a very quiet Winter and Spring! Have a beautiful Christmas and all the best for 2013 :) x